July 31, 2017
You’re engaged, and now what? Is this time just meant for planning a wedding? Is there any way of being productive and taking this time to be meaningful in your relationship? Intentional even?
This is not some Wedding purgatory! This time is meant to begin training you, building you up, and helping you to acquire the skills to have a successful and long lasting marriage! Take advantage of this time, and be intentional with it!
Be sure you are communicating.
It sounds so simple, but for so many this becomes the crux in which their marriage begins to fail. Learn to communicate effectively. How does your significant other want to be spoken to, related to and even fought with. It sounds silly but you WILL fight, so learn how to fight right! If you are fighting to win, you will lose every time! Fight to resolve, the goal is always resolution!
Let the little things go.
Now that’s such a tough one for a lot of us! We have to learn to pick our battles, and train ourselves to let it go! Take time to plan for your marriage, not just the wedding. For so many it seems like this time in your life is meant just for planning this amazing party you’ve dreamed of your whole life. But remember once the cake is gone, and the bouquet has been tossed…there is still a person there waiting to live life with you. Make sure you are spending time talking about goals and dreams. The way life will be once the wedding is over. Expectations etc.
This used to be a given. You would meet with your childhood pastor a few times before the wedding, he would speak wisdom into your lives and then you would get married. Now less and less are taking this route. I cannot express enough how great it is to have someone speak life and TRUTH into your lives! You are so excited about the thought of marriage, about this great party to celebrate your love…but the practical ins and outs of what that actually means can get lost! Having a trusted counselor walk you thru some things to think about, and goal setting ideas is invaluable! They could give you the tools that will one day save your marriage, because let’s face it, none of us our perfect and we are going to go thru tough times! Don’t you want to give yourselves the best possible chance?
Are you doing other things to take advantage of this time? I would love to hear them!