Brides, we talk about you all the time! What you will wear, what flowers you will carry, and how you can prepare…but what about your GROOM??
He is sometimes forgotten in the mix of it, and just left not really knowing how to help, how to prepare or what to do other than show up and wear the tux you chose for him.
Here are 3 simple tips to helping your groom feel more at ease, and prepared on the day of your wedding!
- Do an Engagement Session
This may not seem like something that would prepare him for the big day, but it WILL!! Usually grooms are not the “selfie”, get in front of every camera you can find to take a pic of himself with his friends, excited about photos type of guys…
Ladies you know what I’m talking about…we have been preparing for our day in front of the camera since we were born! Most of us love it! And the thought of getting dressed up and having gorgeous portraits taken of us gives us goose bumps, in a GOOD way! Our guys?? Not so much! They avoid cameras like the plague! Some more than others, so it may be hard to convince him, at first, that an engagement session is a good idea (although I’m sure most expect it nowadays!). But if we can get your guy in front of our camera, and he can experience what it is like to be photographed by us, he will be SO much more comfortable the day of your wedding!! My mission for every engagement session is to hear the sentence: “That was actually pretty fun! Not near as bad as I thought!” And then all of the sudden I’m not the dreaded “girl with a camera” coming to ruin his fun…I’m a friend!!
- Talk about Expectations for HIS Details!
What? The groom has details we need to photograph?? YES!! Does he have a pocket watch? A special pair of Cuff Links? Gifts for his Groomsmen? We want to include these in your gallery! We want to make him feel like he is an important part of the day as well! Because he IS!!
So talk it over with him, find out the list of special things he will have, and have him be prepared that we will want to take his tie, cuff links and shoes even!! If he knows this then he won’t get fully prepared until we have taken those images and he won’t get frustrated when I ask him to take his shoes off! Haha!
- Make sure he has a Getting Ready area.
A lot of times the groom, and groomsmen aren’t really thought of for having a special place to get ready. Not a huge deal, but I would love for all of my Grooms to feel super special! It doesn’t have to be a hotel suite, or anything fancy. It could be at his home, but talk to him about planning for this time. We will want to capture him as he is getting ready with his guys. And the same standards apply to his room as to yours! We would love to have beautiful window light (if you are one of my brides you learn about the “window effect” in your Wedding Guide). Also prepare him for the fact that Chris or myself may MOVE things! I’m talking couches, chairs, lamps etc.! Even wall hangings! If it gets us a clear space, I’m doin’ it! My past brides will tell you I don’t mind moving things around to get the good shot!
Overall, my hope is that each groom will have an amazing experience on his wedding day. That it will be something that he talks about with fond memories, and not as a day full of stress and unknowns!